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Respond to a Situation

July 15, 2010

Being an engineering student, I prefer to define Situation as “a phenomenon that happens because something happens”. Well, engineering student always used to define anything in this format.
Leaving it apart, situation is what makes a man. One big question I have asked myself over the years is this “Does something happen in someway because it was meant to happen that way, or because we made it happen that way?”. (Even now, when I am phrasing this question, I do not know why I made it look like I am being biased). Alright, now suppose it has happened, then what? The way we act to it determines who we are. The way we act may be determined by our attitude towards life, our aim/goal/destiny/whatever-you-call-it, or what result we want to get from the situation, our purpose of life, and much more.

“You always have a choice”, people say. “Mine was taken”, people respond. That is all fine. But one person who dedicated his life towards this research is Dr.Viktor E. Frankl, authour of Man’s Search for Meaning and father of Logotherapy. He is my favorite philosopher. The main point of Frankl philosophy is “Life does not owe you happiness, it offers you meaning.”

Meaning is found by

1.creating a work or doing a deed

2.By experiencing something or encountering someone

3.By the attitude we take toward unavoidable suffering.

To find meaning is the purpose of life.

Situation is what triggers a thought inside us and thereby an emotion (Well, unless you are on drugs). Situation gives experience, teaches and makes a man. “Situation does not reveal a man. It makes a man” – this one sentence gives huge self-confidence. Deep inside us, enclosed in a thick shell, lies a thought of regret that we do not wish to reveal or rub on it. The regret may be due to something that we did wrong or said wrong, knowingly or unknowingly. One thing is for sure, you cannot go back and change what you have done. But you can change its course, you have control over it. When the next, time a situation occurs and you want to respond to it, you have a choice of how to act.

People might think of you in any way. You have no control over what people think of you. But you have control over how you make them to think of you, the next time. So ultimately you have a choice! There lies a path of optimism before us. (More about optimism later.) Whatever has gone wrong, you can make a difference by choosing the way you act.

(But sometimes, having a lot of choices, lessens your level of satisfaction. More later)

Finally, it zeroes up to this – “He who has a why to live for can bear with almost any how.” – Friedrich Nietzsche.

Will you respond? If you do respond, how will it be?

Whatever you do, Have a great day!


One Comment leave one →
  1. nandor helios permalink
    September 8, 2010 10:06 pm

    Life is sharing, Keep going : )

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